First relax, later sex!
Women have it much more difficult to simply with off the mind. Maybe she is putting your pleasure before her own?
Think too much about how you feel, what you think about her look and her behaviour etc? Women tend to be very giving and generous, which is one of the many reasons why they are so awesome. However, with that said, it is time you let them know that their sexual pleasure is just as important!
Can we say hello to equal sexual pleasure! Make sure she knows how her pleasure is important for you.
Some girls have psychological difficulties to completely losing themselves and reaching orgasm. Sexual trauma may be a reason why your partner is not reaching her potential pleasure in bed.
When it comes to sexual trauma everybody has their own way to process, in their own time. Whether it is mental or physical healing, each individual is on their own healing journey. If she asked you to give her time, give her as much time she needs. Be there for her if she decides to open up and share her past with you.
Sometimes listening and hugging is all that she needs. And this can entirely and completely freak women out. If your partner feels insecure about how they look it is less likely they will be comfortable enough to engage in sexual activity.
If this is the case, let her know just how beautiful you think she is! If your lady does not seem to be enjoying herself as much as she could be in the bedroom, take a step back and look at the bigger picture.
Ask yourself what might be going on and take some time to recognize and address it. Patrick is a Berlin-based dating advisor, motivational speaker, a huge fitness and vegan diet enthusiast and the main editor at Wingman Magazine, specialised in men's health.